Archive for August 2013

Passing Solomon’s Test

6 August 2013

If nothing else, the Bible offers stories as instructive and formative as the myths and legends of ancient Greece. For almost two years now, one story in particular has stayed in my mind: the story of the Judgement of Solomon.  (日本語はこのリンクの第3章3:16から読んでください。)

Two women living together came to King Solomon to ask him for justice; both women were unwed mothers. The first woman accused the second woman of having taken her newborn infant while she slept and instead placed in her arms the second woman’s dead son. The second woman denied this, saying her child was the live boy and that it was the first woman’s son who had died in his sleep.

A Japanese family court  official holds the sword.

A Japanese family court official holds the sword while the false mother looks on.

Solomon ponders the question and gives his judgment. He asks for a sword to split the child in two, giving each woman one part. The first woman cried out and stopped the King, “Give her the boy alive, do not kill him!” while the second woman said “He will be neither yours nor mine. Cut!”. Solomon then said “Give the child to the first woman. She is the mother”.

Emilie will one day wonder why I abandoned her. The answer is simple: her mother took her away and there was no King Solomon to pass a wise judgement.

A real mother does not rip a child away from the father like Emilie’s mother did. A real father puts the child’s interests before his own. My daughter needed both parents and I never would have dreamed of taking Emilie away from her mother. And once her disturbed mother took our daughter, in a system rigged to reward the first parent to snatch the child, there was no way to arrive at a reasonable settlement.

So instead of fighting a battle I could not win, I decided to wait and save my strength for later. Perhaps one day, Emilie will understand what her mother did. I hope she does. Perhaps her mother will understand what she did and ask for Emilie’s forgiveness, but I doubt she will.

In any case, Emilie should know that her father passed a test which her mother failed.


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